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Find your purpose

Find your peace

Make a difference

Make a change

Touch someone’s life

Touch with kindness and love

Lead the way

Lead with confidence

Share your knowledge

Share your strengths

Never lose faith

Never doubt God’s love for you

Follow His plan for you

Follow with an open mind

Remain positive

Remain strong


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10 Jan 2022


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Residents & Staff of the Ry-Ma-In Self Help Centre would like to wish you and your loved ones a joyous festive season.

Have a Merry Christmas & a wonderful, exciting New Year!

NB. Charity shop closes on 15th Dec 21 and re-opens on the 3rd Jan 22.



When Christmas time draws near, we all think of parties, overloaded tables, liquor, Christmas trees and presents.  We might spare Jesus a thought, the sweet little Baby in the manger.  We think of the shepherds and the wise men and the angels singing: “Glory to God in the highest.”

It is, however, impossible to celebrate Christmas without remembering the cross on Calvary.  The Bible says that God demonstrated His own love towards us in that, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8).

Let us pause for a moment and try and determine for ourselves which person in the world we love the most…Then when we have decided and know this, someone comes to us and says: “Here is a tramp.  He has an awful smell.  He is filthy and he is drunk, but he is also very ill, and we need your beloved’s heart to cure him.”  This is what God the Father did when He sent Jesus His Son to die for us!

But wait, there is more:  Jesus has risen!  He conquered death!  We meet the risen Christ in Revelation 1:9-20.  He is so different to the Baby in the manger!  He is the great I Am.  The King of kings and the Lord of lords!

This majestic Lord is appealing to us: “Do you accept My sacrifice on the cross when I died in your place, and will you follow Me by obeying Me?”  Only if we agree to this, can we truly celebrate Christmas!

Have a blessed Christmas and New Year!


13 Dec 2021



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Visit our Bookshop now. 

Book sale from 08 - 15 December 2021

All books selling @ R10.00 each.


Santa Claus is coming to town!

On Christmas day, the three-year-old toddler announced: “I know who is Santa!”  “How do you know that?”  his dad asked.  “Well,” the little boy replied, “Santa bumped his toe against the leg of my bed, last night and he then said all your favourite words!”


06 Dec 2021


The Tale of the Three Little Trees

There were once three, little trees standing close to one another in the woods.  One day they discussed what they wanted to become when they grew up.  The first little tree said: “I want to be a cradle for a baby girl or boy and rock the baby to sleep.”

“Oh no.” said the second little tree, “I want to become a battleship and conquer many countries.”

The third little tree said: “I don’t really want to be anything else, but a tree.  I enjoy the sunlight on me and the wind blowing through my leaves.

Some years later, the first little tree was chopped down.  It was not made into a cradle.  It was made into a trough from which animals ate.  But one night a young couple entered the stable where the trough was.  The woman gave birth to a baby boy whom she wrapped in cloths and laid Him in the manger and so the dream of the first little tree came true!

About thirty years later the second little tree, which was now fully grown was chopped down. It, however, did not become a battleship, it became a fisherman’s boat.  One day while it was out on the sea, a heavy storm broke loose.  The little boat feared that it would be destroyed in the storm.  When almost in desperate despair, a young Man stood up and commanded the wind and the waves to be still and so the little boat was saved.

Not long here after the third tree was cut down.  It was made into a cross.  One day a Man was brutally nailed to it.  It then heard the Man pray: “Father forgive them for they do not know what they do!”  The third tree then knew that this was the turning point in the history of all mankind!


29 Nov 2021


Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (A.D.H.D.)

This condition is commonly seen as the inability to concentrate or focus on a specific activity or topic e.g. a classroom activity or when a topic needs to be read or studied or listened to. It would perhaps be better to describe the condition as the inability of the brain to select the stimuli (information) that it should focus on. This then means that the person suffering from this condition, focusses on everything whether visually or auditory. The person is therefore literally bombarded by too much information. This can cause a restlessness in the person or in some cases it causes absent mindedness which results in daydreaming.

The A.D.H.D. is mostly associated with childhood. For a child to be diagnosed with this condition, the symptoms must have occurred before the age of four years. Children are usually diagnosed after entering school, when learning problems or behavioural problems start to appear.

A common misconception about the condition is that children will outgrow it. It is however, never outgrown; the individual simply learns to live with it.

A.D.H.D. often runs in families. When a child is diagnosed with A.D.H.D. it is highly likely that his or her parent or another close relative also suffers from it.

The cause of A.D.H.D. is yet unknown. It may have to do with the neuro-transmitters (brain fluids) that are either too little or too much.

The symptoms of A.D.H.D. amongst others are:

  1. Inability to remember or perform a task, correctly.

  2. Loosing belongings e.g. clothing, books, pens etc.

  3. Clumsiness due to poor co-ordination

  4. Restlessness e.g. fiddling, chattering, etc.

  5. Irregular handwriting and spacial orientation problems.

  6. Poor memory.

  7. Insomnia

  8. Behavioural problems. Such as anger outbursts or the throwing of tantrums.

Behavioural problems are mostly the result of a child being scolded or punished often, which leads to the child feeling rejected. This often has a snowball effect:  The child seeks attention; even if it is negative attention, which once again initiates scolding or punishment. If this vicious circle is not broken, the child can reject his or her parents when adulthood is reached. This then causes pain to all parties involved.

To avoid the above-mentioned situation, it is good to keep in mind that if the child is not harming anybody or anything, let him or her be. It is harder for him/her to concentrate when simultaneously having to concentrate on keeping still. It is always better to reward good behaviour than to concentrate on negative behaviour.

Keep in mind that folks with this condition, usually love debating and have inquiring minds. Do not smother this, but rather encourage this by supporting them to find answers if you do not know the answer.

A calm quiet home and school environment is to be recommended. Small classes are ideal. Screens can be put around a learner to eliminate visual stimuli. This, however, should be done without stigmatising the particular learner.

Parents should try and spend private time with their child with A.D.H.D. meaning a one-on-one situation without involving the other parent or siblings.

Following a routine with meals, bedtime, time to get up in the morning, study time etc. works best. The routine can, however, be relaxed during weekends and school holidays. Setting boundaries and maintaining them will hopefully help the child grow into a self-disciplined adult.

It is good for any child to be taught to follow Christ. It gives meaning to life and Someone to turn to in one’s joys and sorrows. It also provides opportunities to meet fellow Christians who may be less judgemental than others. It is, however, impossible to cultivate this if you yourself do not follow Christ.

It is also good not to take life, your children, spouse, or yourself, too serious. Humour is ever present. Enjoy your family and friends while they are around.

I have only come across one book in which A.D.H.D. in adults was discussed. It was written by two professors, who both suffered from the condition. Unfortunately, I do not have access to the book anymore and do not know the title of the book or the authors. Be this as it may, the two professors made it clear that A.D.H.D. was not the result of wrong parenting. They were also convinced that it does not disappear, but that one should learn to manage it. According to these two authors setting deadlines helped them in their careers. They would rather work through the night before a deadline, than start earlier. The reason for this was that they found it extremely difficult to get started on a task while with the pressure of a deadline, they were forced to do so.

I, on the other hand, who do not suffer from the same condition, but from bi-polar, would rather plan ahead to avoid stressful situations.  But being adults, we should be able to determine what works best for us, ourselves.

In the workplace the two authors recommend a sympathetic colleague who could support the person with A.D.H.D. with telephonic discussions, preferably, daily. For home life the two of them recommend a weekly group, even if it means that one has to “shop around” to find a suitable group where one feels accepted and at home. I think that a church group e.g. a home cell or Bible study group will do the trick for Christians. For others, a group that has a specific activity in mind e.g. a book club, or a fishing club or sewing group etc.  may suit this need.

These professors also point out that people with A.D.H.D. prefer to pace when discussing topics e.g. when in therapy or in conversation about something stressful. They recommend that this should be allowed rather than forcing the person to stay put.

As far as the intelligence of people with A.D.H.D.  are concerned, I think you find them right across the spectrum. Some are brilliant and others not. Even if a child fails a grade (and this applies to any child whether he or she has the condition or not) it does not mean that the child is mentally challenged. It can be that the problem was not dealt with correctly for whatever reason e.g. the class was too big, or the learner had emotional problems etc.

Medication can sometimes be helpful. This, however, varies from individual to individual and should be discussed with a professional.

In conclusion, I would like to encourage you if you suspect that your child or you yourself are challenged with this condition, to seek professional help.

God bless,


22 Nov 2021


A Few Chuckles

I grew up as a child with a disability and attended special schools.

We had just moved into a new school building which cost over five million rand, back in the seventies. A fireman was invited to our weekly assembly to " train" us about what to do in the event of a fire breaking out. After the "lecture" there was time for questions. The fireman looked hopefully over to the matrics. There was little interest.Eventually a grade 1 boy, in a wheelchair, put up his hand. Expectantly the fireman moved closer, bending down to hear better.

"Do you know what? Jessie had puppies!", the little guy said, leaving us in fits of laughter.

Two of the older boys from our school, the Elizabeth Conradie School, decided that they had had enough of school and ran off. The police and the public were on the look out for them. After some time a woman met the two boys.

"Aren't you from Elizabeth Conradie?, she inquired.

"No", came the reply. "Who is she, mam?".

A few of the older girls went to town for their weekly shopping. One of them, a Cerebral Palsy with hemaplegia, heavily limping, went along. 

"What is wrong with you?", a member of the public asked.

"Nothing. And with you?", came the witty reply.


15 Nov 2021


Isn't  it  Amazing?

Isn't it amazing that just

when you feel  like you have nowhere to turn,

when the walls are closing in,

when you are down and out,

when you want to scream your problems away...

Someone suddenly comes along 

to listen and advice you,

to volunteer to assist you,

to open many doors for you,

to pick up your spirits and

to give you hope.

Isn't it amazing how these ANGELS come into out lives?

Isn't it amazing how their kindness and generosity remind us that we are blessed?

Isn't is amazing how we are reminded that WE MATTER?

Isn't it amazing how we are reminded of GOD'S LOVE for us?

Never lose faith in humanity

Never lose faith in God.

You are loved.


08 Nov 2021



Love takes time. It needs a history of giving and receiving, laughing and crying….

Love never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfilment.

Love means believing in someone, in something.

It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer and to rejoice. Satisfaction and ultimate fulfilment are by-products of dedicated love. They belong only to those who can reach beyond themselves; to whom giving is more important than receiving.

Love is doing everything you can to help others build whatever dreams they have.

Love involves much careful and active listening. It is doing whatever needs to be done, and saying whatever will promote the other’s happiness, security, and well-being. Sometimes, love hurts.

Love is a constant journey to what others need. It must be attentive, caring, and open, both to what others say and what others cannot say…

Love says no with empathy and great compassion.

Love is firm, but when needed it must be tender. When others have tried and failed, love is the hand in yours, in your moments of discouragement and disappointment.

Love is reliable.

Love is a choice and commitment to others’ true and lasting happiness. It is dedicated to growth and fulfilment.

Love is not selfish.

Love sometimes fails for lack of wisdom or abundance of weakness, but forgives, knowing that the intentions are good.

Love does not attach conditions…genuine love is always a free gift.

Love realizes and accepts that there will be disagreements and disturbing emotions… there may be times when miles lay between. but love is a commitment. It believes and endures all things.

Love encourages freedom of self.

Love shares positive and negative reactions to warm and cold feelings.

Love, intimate love, will never reject others. It is the first to encourage and the last to condemn.

Love is a commitment to growth, happiness, and fulfilment of one another

Barb Upham

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01 Nov 2021


On Their Blindness

This blind woman was used to giving a shopping list to one of the shop assistants of a local Super Market.  The assistant would then collect the items for the lady for which the lady would pay.  However, there was a change in management and the new manager denied her this assistance. She then asked whether she could bring her guide dog along to assist her.  The manager granted this request.  The dog swiftly proceeded to the table on which the cakes were displayed and promptly helped itself to a few cakes!


One of the students who attended the school for the blind in Worcester had been Confirmed and was now ready to attend his First Holy Communion service.  Curious about what actually happens at such a service, he questions his older peers about this.  They reply that one is given a tiny piece of bread and a huge cup of wine (it was the custom in those days to drink from a communal cup), and that it is considered very rude if you did not finish all the wine in the cup!

The poor guy followed this advice and was interrupted by a very indignant deacon!


Two blind students at some point studied simultaneously at the University of Stellenbosch.  It so happened that they, accidently, physically bumped into each other.  One of them wittingly remarked: “Hey, you blind bat! Can’t you look where you’re going!”


25 Oct 2021


Can or will Jesus heal me?

I realise that this topic is a sensitive one and although I am going to attempt to voice my opinion the last word on it has by no means been spoken.

When we turn to the end of the Gospel of John (John 20:30-31) John says that Jesus did many more signs… but that those that were described were so that we could believe that Jesus is the Messiah and that we by believing, can have eternal life.  The first reason why Jesus performs miracles, is therefore so that He should be glorified and when we do this by honouring Him as our Saviour, He grants us eternal life.

Because of the above argument some people say that miracles were only necessary to be performed in biblical times to strengthen and reveal Jesus as the Messiah, but now that we have the Bible in full, miracles are no longer necessary and do no longer take place.  I beg to differ!  First of all, each person who is healed or who recovers from a common cold or from Covid 19 or from cancer etc. should thank God for healing him or her.  Even when God uses the medical science to achieve this, it is still God who is performing a miracle!

Secondly, in James 5:14-15, Jesus promises that if someone is ill, the person should call on the elders and if they believe the sick will be healed and when he/she has sinned it will be forgiven.

Thirdly, I have experienced supernatural healings:  I have an aunt who is a firm Christian.  She was diagnosed with colon cancer in 1975.  The doctor gave her six months to live.  Many people prayed for her recovery and no doubt she received medical treatment, but she is still living a full life, even today!

Lastly, on this point:  As many of you know I have cerebral palsy and attended a school for the cerebral palsied.  There was a little boy, who went to school with me, between the ages of 9-11.  He could only walk with the aid of elbow crutches.  One night his father carried the boy to his bedroom after supper and put him down on his bed.  He, however left the boy’s crutches in the dining room.  The boy wanted to tell his mom, who was in the kitchen, something.  He got up and walked to his mom without any aids and has done so ever since!

Having said this, we all know that not everyone is healed.  Many people’s faith has been crushed by Christian leaders who have said to those who had seeked healing through prayer, that it is not God’s will that people should be ill or disabled.  When they are not healed after prayer it is because their faith is not strong enough.  This argument has left many people feeling that they are failures, and that God (Jesus) does not love them.  Another reason that is given for the fact that people are not always healed upon prayer, is that the person must have committed some or other sin.

To return to the first argument, that illness is not the will of God:  God has created everything, including man, perfect (Genesis 1), but because of man’s disobedience to God by falling when he was tempted by Satan, sin and its consequences entered the world.  God is not the author of evil, yet He utilises, controls and sets boundaries to it.  He uses evil to our benefit; not necessarily to promote our comfort, but definitely to build our characters.  God sent his Son to redeem those who believe in Him.  Jesus overcame death by his resurrection and by doing so, performed the greatest miracle ever.  If one reads 2 Corinthians 12 together with Galatians 4, it becomes clear that Paul was not healed from his thorn in the flesh.  Surely Paul’s faith was not too feeble!  At the bath of Bethesda Jesus healed but one person, although there were many that were ill or disabled. (John 5)

The crucifixion and resurrection of Christ are the greatest evidence of God’s love for us.  (Romans 5:8; John 15:13).  There is nothing more that Jesus could do to prove that he loves us.

To respond to the argument that we might have sinned and therefore cannot be healed, John 9:3, when Jesus healed the man born blind and James 5:15 contradict this.

So, to return to our first two questions:  Can Jesus heal me?  Certainly!  It has been proven.  Secondly, will Jesus heal me?  The answer to this question, I do not know.  God’s Master plan is far too great and complex for us to box God in.  All I know, also in my personal circumstances, is that His grace is sufficient.  I also take heart from Philippians 2:10-11, which is, of course, in the first place a warning to His foes, yet to us it is a beautiful promise:  that one day our paralysed knees will bow, and our paralysed tongues will confess that Jesus is Lord in complete adoration, and to the glory of God, our Father!

God bless.


18 Oct 2021


To "see" the Funny Side  😂

A blind guy was sitting in the bar. 

“Do you guys want to hear about a joke about a blond?”  he asked. 

“Hang on!”  a voice replied.  “Let me explain something to you.  On either side of you are two blond ladies.  In front of you there is a blond gentleman.  The barman, as well as the bouncer is blond.  Are you sure you still want to tell the joke?”

“Oh no, the blind guy replied, “not if I have to explain it five times!”


A blind chap is walking along a busy street together with his guide dog.  They arrived at a crossing.  Despite the traffic light being red, the dog leads his master across, which results in the guy nearly being knocked over.  The blind guy promptly takes a dog treat from his pocket and gives it to the dog. 

A passer-by who was watching this, asks the blind guy: “How can you reward your dog when he nearly caused your death?” 

“I am only trying to find out which end of the dog I should kick!”  the blind man replies.


Isaac, who had a little vegetable shop with a fairly big window, considered buying a blind to keep the sun out.  He then took a collection tin on which he wrote “for the blind” and placed it on the counter!


11 Oct 2021


Seriously,  Dude,  get  your  Jab!!!

Seriously, dude, get your poke.

It isn’t a joke.

You say you want to go on a spree

So get your jab, its free.

Visit your nearest vaccination site.

Let’s all join this plight.

Turn the bend

And let’s bring this pandemic to an end.

Only then can you give your friends a call

And invite them for brunch at the Mall.

Ladies you can walk around with ease

And shop for as long as you please.

Gents you can get in your car

And head on over to the local bar.

Kids can safely return to school.

To play sports again will be cool.

Life can return to a sense of normality

Only if we end this ‘Covid insanity’.

So don’t hesitate.

The upcoming festive season we can celebrate.

Beta and Delta can take a backseat

Whilst we enjoy the Summer heat.

Seriously, dude, get your jab

Or your life will remain dull and drab…


04 Oct 2021